Freedom in Forgiveness
Forgiveness is such an easy word to say but hard to put into action. It is an act that takes lots of courage and strength. Oftentimes, forgiveness can be quick to act upon. While other times, it can take many years to achieve. Relationships of any kind, such as friendships, dating, or marriage, go through ups and downs. But there are many ways to make these relationships last. One important way to achieving long lasting relationships, is having the ability to offer real genuine forgiveness.
Being in a partnership requires one to be selfless, empathetic, and patient. Committing to having a partnership implores one to have love and forgiveness. Love and forgiveness in all aspects of the ups and downs: in joy, in peace, in happiness, but also, in sadness, in sorrow, and in anger.
The problem we face is that we often do not know how to navigate being able to truly forgive in the downs. We get so angry that we let the anger consume us and forget why we loved to begin with. We think holding on to that anger will make the other person feel bad, but in reality, it only makes us feel bad. It’s cancerous to the body. We go from anger, to resentment, to hate. The lack of forgiveness is what oftentimes causes people to break up, end friendships, and/or divorce. It burns bridges and starts wars.
The first step in learning to forgive is by first understanding why it is necessary for you to forgive. Forgiveness is never for the person that hurts you. Forgiveness is solely for you, because the moment you let go of the anger, the resentment, and the hate, you free yourself. After this step, you then need to access that pain, that fire that has been burning inside of you. Follow that by being empathetic. Place yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to access knowledge to know why they did what they did. Lastly, you must then forgive yourself. At times, we hold on to anger and hate because we blame ourselves for whatever the situation was that occurred. We must forgive ourselves. In forgiving ourselves we are able to forgive others. Forgiveness is certainly easier said than done. But once it is done, it is the most powerful act. It brings peace, it brings happiness. It brings FREEDOM.
Being in a partnership requires one to be selfless, empathetic, and patient. Committing to having a partnership implores one to have love and forgiveness. Love and forgiveness in all aspects of the ups and downs: in joy, in peace, in happiness, but also, in sadness, in sorrow, and in anger.
The problem we face is that we often do not know how to navigate being able to truly forgive in the downs. We get so angry that we let the anger consume us and forget why we loved to begin with. We think holding on to that anger will make the other person feel bad, but in reality, it only makes us feel bad. It’s cancerous to the body. We go from anger, to resentment, to hate. The lack of forgiveness is what oftentimes causes people to break up, end friendships, and/or divorce. It burns bridges and starts wars.
The first step in learning to forgive is by first understanding why it is necessary for you to forgive. Forgiveness is never for the person that hurts you. Forgiveness is solely for you, because the moment you let go of the anger, the resentment, and the hate, you free yourself. After this step, you then need to access that pain, that fire that has been burning inside of you. Follow that by being empathetic. Place yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to access knowledge to know why they did what they did. Lastly, you must then forgive yourself. At times, we hold on to anger and hate because we blame ourselves for whatever the situation was that occurred. We must forgive ourselves. In forgiving ourselves we are able to forgive others. Forgiveness is certainly easier said than done. But once it is done, it is the most powerful act. It brings peace, it brings happiness. It brings FREEDOM.
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Little Sister, Bestfriend
Sisterhood. Friendship. Two terms that are sometimes separated, but what happens when sisterhood and friendship mingle? Most of the time, siblings are known for their arguments and fighting. However, when friendship inserts itself, it’s an experience worth living. There’s nothing better than sharing such a connection with your sister or your brother. There can be love, comfort, support, encouragement and trust. Most people think these mostly come from the older sibling, but it can go both ways. Contrary to what most believe, your sibling can be your best friend. Your little sister or brother can give you insight and comfort in a way that you might not see coming. It’s the blend of family love and friendship connections that creates a much deeper bond. Is it a secret you need to share or a thought you need to get out of your chest ? From the simplest feelings to the deepest questions, you can have a friend in your sibling. If you don’t have that relationship, don’t be afraid to take a step towards them to start building one. There’s nothing better than having your sibling as your best friend. It’s all the love you deserve right there with you.